Calibrated movement on relationship ladder is the movement from attraction to dating. If I dont make a conscious effort in the direction, I can not expect to grow. And should not be expecting the kind of relationship I want.
The goal is to learn the process and grow in social domain, the goal is nither to satisfy sense pleasure nor expanding or protecting ego. But simply to learn. The mechanics of learning is simple.
The frame is to grow yourself and help other people to grow and make their day beautiful.
The layer of person involve the helos, beliefs and experiences, ego, and self, the value of person is in the transcends of these layers.
intiation and approachability - until you are very sure with the other person wants to be left alone, intiate a small conversation around what have you seen here, and what brought you here, with light banter, build the conversation for 2-3...