once I was attending a Buddhist teaching and in the middle of conversation monk told us the story and lesson stick with me.

the story was about a hunter and a bird. after injuring bird hunter started chasing the bird and the bird fell on king lap trembling with fear. The hunter demanded the king to surrender the bird as its prey. The king refused saying that the bird had sought his protection.

After much argument the hunter agreed to leave the bird alone if the king would offer a piece of flesh from his own body which was equivalent to the weight of the bird. The king was more than happy to make such a sacrifice. and happily cut his arm and gave it to the hunter.

such a compassionate thing to do. would you have done the same if you were that king ? If I was the king NO WAY. even if in some delusional circumstances I did that, I would have regretted rest of my life.

but if it is...

I recently had a conversation with my friend about what if whatever I am doing doesn’t produce any result. wouldn’t that be a waste of time. another friend mention the same thing earlier.

so how would I consider my time is not wasted. if I am just doing a job and avoid thinking much would it be consider time not wasted. keep running without having map/compass/direction. does it sound like a good strategy to live life?

but it does beg a question what exactly I am getting from all this and what if I actually hit ground zero.

one thing is, I am quite happy more healthy and enjoying life way more. another thing is when I was doing my job I wanted to do few other things like traveling, living and reading in the solitude of himalayas, working from coworking spaces ( whenever i have free time this is all i could think about ). the interesting part was finally when I’ve done all these...

one of the best learning I had so far is the usefulness of economy state of mind. instead of exaggerating fear or attachment if I can only learn to see things as they are. instead of default state of mind where every thing sticks. if only it could becomes place like water where good or bad everything flows. a mind that is spacious enough to live in. this seems like a core quality for a good life hidden in plain sight.

so many times the thing we thought about all the time is not the problem, but this habit of mind to think all the time is real problem. only if I can tell my mind I’ve thought about it enough and comes to conclusion so please shut up now. only if it could be that easy.

even though there must be several ways to achieve it. for me meditation seems like a great way to get there.

without this quality, it becomes quite hard to be calm in face of challenging situation or...

how can someone really learn to tame negative qualities like anger, attachment, pride and cultivate positive qualities like compassion, love and humility.

intellectual understanding of the anger and why it is bad is not really helpful to deal with it when you are actually angry.

pretending not to be angry, expressing anger or just compressing it again not only unskillful action but actually feeds the quality itself.

the only skilful action is to let it pass through you. acknowledge it but neither deny nor react. certainly easy to say hard to practice

I identify myself as an introvert and that was my refuge of being socially awkward and shy lately.

even though it is possible that introverts also share traits like shyness but that doesn’t gives them a permission of staying away from people. and be ok with it.

I can remember so many occasion in my life where I was clearly afraid of social interactions. I was just afraid. one of clear occasion was tushita retreat’s last day about 6 months ago. that was the last day of 10 days silent retreat. total 50 people were there a lot of westerners ( seems to me very comfortable with making conversation with new peoples ). I was nervous, everyone was joining groups asking god knows what to each other. I was not comfortable in the scene so eat my food and quickly went back to pack my stuff. spent some time in library hiding from people and telling myself I don’t really have to talk to anyone.

humility seems to me one of the best quality any human being can cultivate. it is clear sign of a healthy relationship with ego and pride.

I spent a lot of time being rigid unable to laugh on myself, too much pride, too much importance on myself. how could I be wrong I am better than everyone else after all. but that was a naive thinking.

but it seems to be more than just a quality it is also a great indication of unhealthy attachment to certain things.

for an example If I can not laugh with my friend at some of the stupidity or embarrassing thing I’ve done in past. it’s clear sign of something needs to be reframed and required better perspective.

being laughed on oneself is onething but listening to an arrogant person, who also gives free advices, which is more of the projection of his problems is another beast. I thought about it a lot and the conclusion really hit me.

I...

bad idea this is like default compass for modern days culture. I wanna feel emotionally good thats the purpose.

relationship is not making me happy so i don’t want to be in one, married ! so what, i will get a divorce. parents are not making me feel good so i will not spent time with them, heck send them to retirement home. so i could do what makes me emotionally happy. why would i compromise, it doesn’t make me feel good.

so what is the idea of emotional happiness. going on dates? partying with friends? eating in great restaurant? smoking? drinking? shopping? maybe working on a project that will make you famous?

I am just writing things i usually see on the movies something that media sells on purpose. just match the life style of character in movie and you will be as happy as that actor. let us show you the way of libration.

emotions are temporary just like a nice meal, taste...

“a girl walking on street with tight and revealing clothes in high heels and fancy accessories. a tattoo on her back and cigarette in her mouth.”

or

“a girl is walking in salwar with her flat sandals without any makeup and her simple accessories with her shopping bag hanging on her soldier.”

so which one you like more and why ? why most of us are way more attracted to first one. and the interesting thing is it’s more of instinct like reaction so lets break it down more logically

in both scenario input mechanism is eye, and from it’s perspective the only logical argument would be - we admired certain shapes more than other and the first girl is more like the shape we admired. doesn’t make much sense.

the other instrument in process is mind the interface. which gives the meaning to the input. now imagine a person who has never seen a girl before which one he would like more. put...

freedom seems like the most undervalued asset these days. everyone seems to running for that awesome feeling ( passion/ success/ become huge/ whatever). even a lot of people seems to be scared of freedom. because at some level it require self knowledge ( stepping into unknown ) and ownership. and that scared the shit out of people better option keep running at least it gives the sense of progress. doesn’t matter how false it is.

after clarity the second most important thing seems like freedom. breaking down freedom

financial freedom

this is the real beast. almost everyone i know around my direct contact seems to be stuck into it. this is how they control us. seems like every major decision for me has been taken by someone else ( gatekeepers ). and the worst part is that someone else really doesn’t care about me. but things are changing and gatekeepers are loosing their power at...

if there is something I am really excited about these days, is experiential knowledge. debunking false beliefs with experience and forging new belief with direct experience could be very powerful.

after spending first few months doing ( only ) intellectual contemplation I can clearly see how much important it is but nonetheless it doesn’t really change anything. what could potentially move things is experience.

there is difference between knowing and believing and the difference is direct experience.

I'vent experimented solely for experiential understanding yet but i think this is the right time.

there is couple of prerequisite that needs to be in constant check
first economy state of mind, if my mind is not capable to see things as they are and keep polluting reality then it is more of seeing what i want to see rather than experiencing reality. state of freedom ( at least...