survival - I wanna live a comfortable life where I don’t have to worry about money. And then I want to have full access to my action and complete freedom.

bussiness - I wanna master the craft of bussiness, identifying the need, matching it perfectly and communicating it magically.

momentum - once I have put my hands in it. The need of mastery is there.

interest - at this business fascinates me, this simple yet complex craft. Challenging every aspect of personality. This is the king of the skills. And this skill can later be used in Danna of grand scale.

growth -. By moving point A to point B, the growth is taking its place.

Mom and dad are becoming more dependent and are not ready for the hardship life is going to present at this stage. Yet we have to go through the life and the brutelity of truth.

The body is going to be detoriate, all the imagination they have created are not going to be realised. And this will not be a pleasent experience for them.

One gridlock is that they have created some imagination based on me, and not fulfilling it makes me feel victimize sometime. That is the weakness in my mind. They are also going to blame and become very hard to talk to.

At the same time they need help and warmth which can not be provided by qualifying their tests. And It is not expected them to be changed. They are going to judge, shout and all. They will very quickly become attached to any thing lifelike.

In their pain there is a prayer which gets answered. They need to go trough a little bit tension. As...

1. Enhance your love map -
Emotionally intellegent couple are intimately familiar with each other’s world. Relevant info about your partners Iife. They know goals, hopes, worries.

If you don’t start off with deep knowledge about each other. It’s easy to loose lose the way when your life shift so suddenly. They catch up with each other’s day atleast once go for dinner in a week.

2. Nurture your fondness and admiration -
They each retain some fundamental sense that other was worthy of being respected, honered and like. When in trouble you can’t elecit much praise in the present moment but from the past you can detect the ember of positive feeling. She giggled when reminded the note in the purse. It is a powerful buffer in hard times. And it is anecdote to contempt.

3. Turn towards each other instead away - in these brief exchange husband and wife are connecting. They are turning...

harsh setup - the way a discussion begin. Dara immediately become negative and accusery. Problem isn’t housekeeping but him.

the four horseman -

• criticism - there will always be some complain but criticism is not about action but global. It is throwing blame on general character. A harsh setup generally comes in guise of criticism.
• contempt - sarcasm and cynicism are type of contempt, hostile humour, eye-rolling, name calling. It covey disgust. He is not just pointing out difference in spending money but accusing Moral deflect. The main purpose was to demean her wife. It happens when differences are not resolved
  • defensiveness - when someone defend attacked don’t back down and apologise but become more aggressive. Because in a way you are blaming your partner. It only escalate the problem. Like a judge or professor she pepper him with question just to see him squirm.
  • stonewalling -...

There is most common theme in choosing business, it is based on interest and passion. This is what warren buffet, Ray Deleo is saying. Or Bezos and Phil are saying.

They select something and stayed with it for the lifetime. And they say because we felt the pull.

Then there are people like Elon and peter. Who didn’t really stick with something because of interest but did something big. So is with Steve jobs.

The common quality is they all did something very big. And become very famous. Billions of dollars and respect and influence. How meaningful and satisfied they felt, only they know.

They achieved name, fame and money masterfully. They mastered the worldly life.

Yet there is some kind of interest pulled them.

What is meaning!! And Ultimate satisfaction!!. This meaning and satisfaction happens at the level of mind and voice. It is the point where there is no more desires and disturbance. There is no more expectation and desire for anything more.

Finding meaning in chasing goals and images and sense pleasures are temporary and futile attempt, it looks as though they are satisfying the desires but actually stimulating it more. Finding meaning in the realm of ego is dangerous voyage. Yet they give the illusion of meaning and satisfaction.

The true satisfaction can be found in self realisation. This is the universal message of wise people. True meaning can be found in selfless service. Neither of these are my direct experience yet.

There are certain certain things that creates disturbance. Self threat| survival or freedom. Unfinished Samskaras. Relationships. Although they don’t lead to meaning...

Survival | Freedom.. The last leg of this need stool is emotions.

At the moment I am not emotionally engaged in programming or MetaInsight. Few months back I was. Or the last video I did on self esteem.

Both MetaInsight and programming were founded in some understanding passion and swadharma. As I start to know that foundation is not what I thought, those emotion start to dissipate.

Based on that agreed understanding that longer desire becomes the pull, I wanna create videos like simon. The shorter milestones has their own daynamcs. Hustling, failing and triumph. The whole set of emotions. And they are all temporary. But the underlying desire keep you going.

I don’t have any desire to create the video or programming. If | do it now it is meaningless, and hard to keep the mind stick on that object. But at the same time if I can have a clear why then I could same task with a lot of...

I told Lin about taking her to carrot place and than cancel at the last moment. Then I told her about mescuilne and faminen concept.

There is a part of mind that wants to explain things, it wants to be appreciated. This is weakness, don’t say things actually do them.

Take her to the carrot, show her what domination look like don’t explain.

I am not the individual entity but the part of the whole system. There are some samskaras inside me, which manifest as desire. Those creates the cause of action. these are karta not me.

Many things are presented by Prakriti. Namshi and Odesk are example. Somehow flow of events present these different opportunity.

Then different gunas creates different state of mind.

There is an interdependent intelligence working here. And possibly creating all kind of situation and stimulus to experience. I don’t have to design them, they present themselfs.

It is mention over and over and I know it with my own experience that selfish desires creates disharmony. The fruits and effect of such desires are painful. At the same time.

There are desires on the realm of mind which are distructive as they are accompanied by attachment. Praise and impressing others.

There are other kind of desires which seems harmless like eating pizza, as I don’t seems to have any attachment to them. Same with novelty maybe salsa, unless I am doing it for some particular purpose. Mind enjoys it.

Then there is tap and yagya. Self purification. Vipassana. This is not a Sakam desire. And self study. These desires are actually wholesome desires without trap of attachment. And can be done endlessly.

So is the desire of Danna. As it is not rooted in self centeredness and it also accompany with good feelings, it can be performed endlessly.