serving breakfast at ashayein- the need of a child is for love and caring. The need of the volunteer is to serve others. Mostly they are the good intentioned people who wants to serve. It is also wonderful chance to know other opportunities to serve and how they are serving and learn from them.

There is no personal need, and a bit of the personal sacrifice of money and time. And it has less commitment.

So the need of love and respect of the child, meaning for the volunteer. With no personal need, a bit of sacrifice, and not much commitment and easy people. It is an incredible opportunity to water the seed of compassion.

teaching at ashayein - the need of child is the direction and guidance, this could be very helpful for them. There is absolute zero personal benefit. And more sacrifice. It could also be a bit more challaning audience.

This is certainly great opportunity if you are...

An innocent discussion transformed into crucial conversation and then into the failed one. You always watch two elements, content of discussion and condition. The longer it takes that you are not in the dialogue the harder it is to get back and higher the cost.

Watch for the condition, brown trout, just out there, because he knows what to look for, in reality you need to look the distorted image of brown trout underwater into sun light. There are three elements to watch, the moment a conversation turns into crucial. Signs that people are not feeling safe, and your own style under pressure.

learn to spot a crucial conversation, some people first notice physical signals, other notice emotions they are feeling scared, hurt, angry. The emotions are good sign to take a step back and slow down. Some people cue behaviour raising the voice etc.

Learn to look for safety problem, gifted...

everyday opportunity - the most accessible option is when someone is trying to grow and you can support that growth by sharing your resources, it helps me to dissolve the compatitve ego. And genuinely help other person to grow. For example Shantu and Bhai. Both of them are pursuing the Nobel goals, and I could help both of them with the resources so they can do same things in short period of time. Than I can also provide support in the terms of acceptance, something I did with J. In all these cases I didn’t have to sacrifice anything, helped in the genuine way and get the opportunity to purify myself.

if you can help by sharing resources or acceptance, take advantage and learn to keep the motive of genuinely help other person to grow.

There genuine growth are being met by collapsing their time because I have already spent so much time, I get to purify and later meaning and...

There are so many selfish desires in me, well maybe all of them are self centred. Cometeing with Shantu and Bhai and Akhil. I don’t want to meet J because what am I getting there anyway. How would I enjoy intimacy when my parents however needy and in pain are at home. How can I make money out of those videos. Lin is not prefect because I don’t want to deal with her problem. The very presence of these thoughts are creating pain.

The good part is I am aware of these thought patterns and behaving in opposite direction. The better direction, readjusting the thoughts. I cherished when I notice Shantu’s growth. I met J and had a good time. I paid lin when mind was going other way around.

These thoughts are gold. Because they are giving me opportunity to first observe and release, and then transition into the purer thoughts.

The selfless service will help you to dissolve ego and...

Yesteryday I went to yoga I did the class, and after the class I stand in front of the reception, I had no question, but for some reason I stand and tried to make the conversation. Now the receptionist wasn’t really a friendly guy.

Ideally, receptionist suppose to ask me how was the class and explain me the process and about the studio all in this case. I tried to start the conversation and he kind of cut me off. He was feeling somewhat unsafe. And then I had no real question.

My standing there was in a way, me easing the conversation non verbally giving him chance to easily initiate and flow with the conversation. It was a way to socialize, and it is good. My intention was not to have conversation but to just socialize. And he didn’t, The problem actually is the wrong match.

So in this case, you should know your intention is to just socialize and not to get any info. If conversation...

Our problem is not that our behaviour degenerates, its that our motives do. More often than not we do something that contribute to the problem we are experiencing. The irony is it is the most talented not the least who are continually trying to improve their dialogue.

Skilled people start with the heart, they begin high risk discussion with right motive, and they stay focused no matter what happens. They are steely eyed smart on what they want. And they do not make fools choice.

Someone just poured rather ugly tidbit in the pool of meaning. Is she walk the talk of honesty and opnennes or she is a raging Hippocrate. We often stop worring about the goal of adding to the pool of meaning and start looking for the ways to win, punish, or keep the peace.

Winning. By the time of kindergarten the desire to win teacher attention and beat other stundent is built deep within. We start with...

*The basics *

• Home - Paid ±35Lakhs - 50/70Lakhs.
  Rent - 30K. Car - 5-7Lakh Clothes - wills | Indian terrain Food - Spencer’s.

Imortant -

• Jonathan | Prachi desire.
• Photography.
• Plants.
• Cooking Equpment.

Luxury -

• Fitbit.
• Amazon Prime.
• Bigger TV.

There are some needs that are uncompromisable, need of food, place, clothes, workspace, transportation, devices. I need to fulfill them one way or another. When I have more money I purchase better service, Zara | Numero Uno. Innov8| BAL. Auto | Ola. 3A | Sleeper. Based on earning power, there are categories of service for different class of people. The more money more comfort, ease, quality and less hustle I am looking for. Someway these fundamental needs has to fullfiled. These are mostly survival aspect.

Then comes the first layer of what matters to me. Personal importance, in my world these things are important. Meditation | yoga | books | courses. Beyond survival I find these things meaningful. They are important because they are solving certain unease in my life. As soon as survival is ensured I am willing to pay as much money as I can comfortably afford for these. They are...

Yesterday I went to sleep around 10:48.. woke up in the middle of the night. 3:00, and then kind of slept till 5:45.. And then it was hard to go to sleep. Now in the morning I don’t feel as refreshed and charged. Even a bit heavy, sensation around eyes and head.

The ideal sleep is when I slept at 10:00 and directly woke up at 5:45. Deep sleep. If not enough sleep, it affect the sharpness of focus. I can still work for the whole day, the productivity might be less. And strong thinking maybe missing.

One remedy that I apply and can apply is go to sleep in the afternoon, sometime I am able to recharge myself, sometime not. Sometime as a hit and trial approach I also try chai. If I am tired and not stressed i should be able to go to sleep next day quickly.

Yoga nidra is good option to fall back and relax. And quickly go to sleep, vipassana is another option if the sleep is not coming.

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At the moment of reconciliation with prachi, she ask if she can have the kindle books, things were selling smooth, and I didn’t want to spoil that so I said yes. Knowing very well I will do it. Because it was easy.

Yesterday Bhai called and said prachi was asking for book, and I have to lie again these are the books of pycology. In reality I don;t want to share because it is wrong action in my mind. Soemthing I know I could be made fun of.

From the prachi side she can take it as personally and the whole cycle becomes an ugly chain of lies and misunderstanding.

If you face such situation handle it on spot.

In the case of prachi make the reconciliation by telling her clearly, and you can also buy book for her. But the key aspect is to tell her the truth.