Share risky meaning, Talking when what we have to say can make other person defensive. Adding delicate, unattractive and controverital opinions in the pool of shared meaning. Worst alternate b/w bluntly dumping their ideas in the pool of meaning or saying nothing at all. The good say some of things in their mind but they understate thier view out of fear of hurting others. The best completely speak their mind, but do it in such a way that makes safe for other to slisten and respond, totally frank and completely respectful.

MANITAIN SAFTEY. Speaking the unspeakable and still mantaining the saftey, it can be done if you know how to mix three ingrident, confidence, humility and skill.

People who are skilled in dialogue have the confidence to say what needs to be said to the person who needs to hear it. They are confident that their opinions derseve to be placed in the pool and can speak...

Once the core need at certain level satisfied, 1bhk independent flat as compare to sharing room at Swami Resendency. Then the tree of importance take its place.

For me this was learning programming, mastering programming, party, movies, solitude, books, knowledge, meditation, yoga, health, appearance, partner, the pain of social inadequacies, social circle, yoga.

The product I have been sold based on this, Lynda, pluralsight, kindle, audible, tushita, vipassana, a1000yoga, books related to pychology, thinking fast and slow, 7 habits of people. Books related to social game, mastery of love, books related to health, anatomy of yoga. Audible subcription. Book related to work shoe dog, e-myth.

If I had less money I would cancel the audible subscription If I had more money I would buy the online courses and attend live event.

This is what photography, cooking is for my brother. He spent...

At the time of collage I was having 2000rs/ dabba month. Then I spent 100-150 to MK. 50-100-300-1500rs haircut. 2000-5000-12000-17000 house rent. Vishal | Big bazar - shopper stop - Zara.

The same pattern is followed by Bhai, Akhil etc. as the earning power increase willing to pay increases for the same service. Infect a lower amount will be even something that will cause me to step back from the product and make me suspicious about the quality.

Brady’s did this, there are many level of service provider for the same thing. There are rode side food provider who are serving food at 20–30rs. There are places like MK which are serving food at 100-200rs. And then there are places like carrots.

On every level of fulfillment basic need, important to oneself, or purely luxirious there are going to different level of services.

As the earning power increases so is the desire for the refine...

Yesterday I went to sandeep’s place. As I would have expected it was people including me trying hard to talk to each other.

I bidappa and how’s are you. the next charan and where you were. On the corner Arvinind and Vaidy talking completely non sense kind of thing somehow surviving. Then I shake hand with Sandeep. Her wife greeted me with a little discomfort. Medha and her friend. Then I met Swati. Then Lin and her friend and then the finance guy and his wife.

Almost everyone was trying to pretend to be comfortable but hardly was. I was probably the most comfortable guy in the room.

Actually it wasn’t bad. I get to meet Charan, Arvind, Bidappa, Sandeep, Vadiy, Medha. I could make good conversation and catchup if I was interested.

Then I met so many new people that I could be making friends with or get to know more closely.

Then if I like I could practice my skills of creating...

If I wanna wake up 5:30 I need to be in bed by 9:50, and go to sleep by 10:00-10:15.

stop all the activities at 9:40 and prepare for the sleep - stop the task, whatever you are doing plan in such a way that you are ready to go to sleep by 9:50. Wether it is talking, making out, walking etc. make this clear when you are in relationship. At 9:50 you are going to sleep. No reading book or thinking. This will build the bio-logical clock.

relax your body and mind - if you are mind is agitated, realx it with breath and relaxation exercise. If it rested then use the yog nidra to induce the sleep, and if there is no sleep then use vipassana. Keep your posture straight. go deep in Yoga Nidra that will help you go to sleep quick.

Explore Yoga Nidra for deep relaxation and other common technique of relaxation too.

First challange is that I am not being able to go to sleep at the night. And what to do, the reason could be either because my mind is too agitated, I am engaged in some kind of activity or I am rested enough.

The second challenge is I am keep waking up in the night. And the quality fo sleep itself is poor, or I didn’t slept enough. The result is when I wake up I don’t find myself very refreshed and the whole day the level of focus in very poor. So if I sleep I wanna make sure I kept sleep whole night. Or if I wake up I wanna make sure I went to sleep right away.

Do not litter the buds and keep the light turn off, don’t force her for conversation. Do not control her life.

Experiment with walk, accept that there are boaring parts in relationship and then there will time when you might be uncomfortable and she might be uncomfortable keep working forward anyway. These emotions are temporary.

Go to bed on time and don’t fool around if you are not serious. Understand and work more towards better understanding of intimacy.

re-enforce good parts -
I like that she cooks the meal for me, her surprises and caring. She liked that I want to spend more time with her. Help her in cooking.

working with seeds of tension - she told me many times that she don’t like me beating her. She is also told me to keep the light turned of and keep my buds in one place. I couldn’t think any corrective action. She also didn’t like when I force her to arouse me.

shared dream together - maybe we can walk together. Go to bed on time and do not engage in arousing act unless we know we are going to have sex. We can sometime go to yoga class.

She mentioned several time her desire to take it forward by mentioning not see anyone else, husband etc. and her being hurt because I abandoned her. Which is delicate topic and needs to talked to. There is also me being so much of a nice guy sometime.

So I wanna do this every week.

Why - to keep the relationship healthy, diffuse any tension, re-enforce good behaviour. Build the share dream together.

The relationship is going to present constant challange, you also need to know clear parameter and teratory of it. With experience refine what it is about and how to keep it healthy.

The first thing you need to know if there is any tension in relationship, sometime since we are dealing with two I. It is clear in the body language though and there will a bit of comfort and discomfort here and there. But if you notice any major difference that is creating the tension it should be known. The source of tension is going to be the difference in personal or share dream story.

Re-enforce good behaviour, the opposite side of tension is something that makes you happy, mention them and let other person know that you are great full.

Building...

I enjoyed book written by him, deep understanding and clear explanation. Now I was thinking to purchase his book on systematic courses on yoga. And as I was buying, I saw an opinion of he accused as rape with a child.

This created a strong and quick repulsive impulse. And then I look into it.

You can not avoid listening to other people to be in a bubble of the impression. You need to listen to both side if the case is strong.

In his case, the govt. of Australia testified many girls against akhandaya guy. Then there are some bloodish accusation about Satyananda.

Now the purpose of me is to gain better understanding of path of yoga from someone who followed it. Satyananda followed in the path in terms of yoga and Tantra. His explanation or understanding of that subject is incredible and clear.

It is very possible that his disciple is accused of charges maybe really guilty. But that...