Directing your thoughts - Choosing the next calibrated step. And doing it. Not randomly reacting to the temptations.

Still in the presence of temptation - what I have to do is clear, what is the routine is clear as well. There is no excuse to entertain any temptation.

Observing your thoughts - unenagegd seeing it’s actions and reaction like a third person. With samatha and wisdom.

Transmuting your thoughts - playing with the thoughts. Seeing how it is hurting me and how can I change the angle.

Observe the sensation - If you can’t do the above, then observe the breath and sensation.

Listen to audiobook - if you can’t observe the breath, listen to audiobook.

Walk and listen to the audiobook - If you can’t observe the breath, take a walk and listen to the audiobook.

Core - self mastery, the control over your mind, directing your thought. Understanding all the action and reaction and mastering it. Going deeper.

The First Layer - work and relationship. A calibrated step at a time, in all the cases, you need to know exactly what is the current understating and what is the next step.

*The secon layer - * Serving food, talking to family. Yoga. Hanging out with friends. Logistics. Mangaing money.

The center [ Work. Relationship. Spirituality ]

The frame -

• setup studio.
• learn more about cemara setup.
• learn more about cemara light.

apperance -

• hair quality
  • try hair pack.
  • update conditioner.
  • update shampoo.
  • try hair oil.
  • hair styling
  • practice styling with your current hair.
  • Clean shave vs trim.

delivery -

• element of structure.
• structure of Simon sinek and Seth godin.
• vocal and body language of those presentation.

content -

• know what matters.
• self esteem.

deliver know what matters.

Relationship -

• practice the different element once a day.
• setup a perfect date.
• setup the leading direction.

Tightenting ritual -

• only two focus point work| relationship.
• either focused or observing the temptations.
• wake up sharp 5:45. And 40 minutes of meditaion.
• take the calibrated step and do it.

The center [ spirituality | work | romantic relationship ].

• know what matters [script].
• research on cemara, lightening, and background.
• order cemara, lightening, and background.
• research on appearance [hair and facial style].
• start facial and hair style management.
• research on delivery.

Spirituality | Soical

• start dating preksha. Hanging out with Lin. Dissolving with J.
• field| lead| exploring relatiobship with Preksha.
• yoga sutra.

So the next meeting we are going to have is the Sunday breakfast. And then go to some nice cafe for chatting around 1-2 hours. Start treating her like your Gf.

Polarize her smoothly. Tell her how you found her intersting.

Build the sexual polarity. Touch her. Enjoy her. Take advantage of sexual hooks, give her space to chase. Build depth by asking more personal questions. Mercylessly. Start sharing your chases. Your current life, start encouraging her to do so. Start showing your affection and attraction.

So once a week, a good date, followed by intimacy. And in between once a week chai or pizza or an event is good. More than that is going to kill the the kind of the tension.

The next date is Sunday. It is date don’t forget. Keep escilating smoothly. And then we will do one in a om-made-cafe sort of place followed by an intimate night and full Polarization.

The first thing you need to do is clearly polarize and kill the ambiguity. At this point her attraction is very clear. You are also very interested. Kill the indirect communication, attempts to test other person’s interest and start the relationship. The polarisation happens when you either verbally agreed or kissed. And that can only happens when you had make a move.

There are two ways to do it. Either you setup the date, polarize yourself. Or you meet and escilate until she brings it. There is also a natural escalation like Lin. It is more easy as you meet more.

Keep fascitilating meetings and dates for the whole month, show her that you are interested, find the right moment and then polarize either by kiss or by verbal esiclation.

Once you have done that. The realtionship begins. First thing you need a space where she can come and you can be intimate with her. Your place is good...

Polarization - There is non verbal understanding of we like each other. But his non-verbal agreement creats the ambiguity that we can retreat back. And a mental stimulus, like will this message affect our agreement. To go all in there has to be clear plolariztion, kiss|sex or verbal, this creats much deeper commitment and comfort that we are actually seeing each other.

*The main chacter - * Once you have a main chacter inside your head, you automatically start to interact with that. And that subdue other chacters. This also subdue this need of constantly impressing other people.

Killing the Aloneness- Now you have someone to talk to, have dinner with, share things, give and receive affection. Dance, Luagh, Play, touch and be sexual. Done in moderation, this could be nice balance.

Being real - No image of perfection. You can be open and real with her. Bond on the level of reality and...

Yesterday I had a good time with sha. We had a pizza and then move to the ice cream shop. It was 2:30 hr. And it was very fluent. A good chemistry there.

She talked unexpectadely a lot. I hardly have to guide here and there. And in way, it wasn’t awkward. Maybe for a 2-5 min in beginning. It is easy to be around her.

She was poilate. Running business. Certainly a smart person. She also look really good and well dressed. And then she is a keeper. Taking care of every one and putting her needs on the last. Kind of really nice person. Also the passive in a way. Low self importance but low self esteem as well.

It seems to me she drinks a lot. She probably has a lot of things that she is dealing by herself.

She is very friendly. She was touching me, kicking me. Hugging me. Infect she dropped me to the home.

Pilot. Banana experiment. Cats. Sister. Mom cancer. Violin. Yoga dream. PPF...

When we have no direction in our life. Taking intentional action become so hard becasue we can’t tell right from wrong. And we wired in such a way that we have to take action, in every moment, atleast mentally.

So we are not just missing out from all the opportunity but running away from them. Because we don’t know what to do with them.

And when we have no direction than based on what we are taking these action. Our actions become directed by other peoples’ opnion or impulses. We are trying to find happiness by hit and trail. Or we try to escape in the form of TV shows and alcohol. But we can’t escape from ourself. So now not only we don’t know what we are doing but we also have to deal with all this garbage that we are constantly feeding ourself.

Our mind are such that if we can get that one thing we will be free from all this. But we can’t

At this point we are not living but...

The center [ spirituality | work | romantic relationship ].

• moving forward in the direction of first course.
• know what matters.
• explore each topics.
• building strong self esteem.
  • selfish desires and suffering.

Spirituality | Soical

• about the romantic relationship.
• vipassna | living by intellect.
• completely aligned minor details and decisions.