nitesh sharma

Professional Programmer, Introverted traveler, and Admirer of classics.

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The companion date.2

context -
what is important is a deeper connection, more comfort and authenticity. a play, fun and ease. it is fundamentally depth, play and polarity. support and care are the underlying background. the 36 questions can also be used if you want so.

setting -
a place where both of you are comfortable and talk. and a playful activity where you can have fun.

  • A nice cafe where they serve pizza.
  • A zumba class | salsa | yoga | standup comedy | nature walk | a workshop.

volume -
±3 hours.

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The companion relation

yesterday I setup the next playdate. she was excited. I should have acknowledge her message. I gently started to nudge her to take more responsibility.

currently the situation is we like each other in a sense of companion but there is not enough comfort to be really real. a kind of inner resistance is there.

The first rule of companion relationship is to be real. because it is about sharing, playing, connecting and supporting. if any of you fake you kill the very foundation of it.

for today, do something which is different than last week.

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The pipeline of emotional tank.

The consistent supply to the emotional tank in a way that really fills it. ofcourse only having deep conversation is not going to do it. you need a different settings as well. a play. an adventure, a conversation, little poking and fun.

Find with the practicing how much is perfect balance for you.

Hanging out in a place of interest - 5-6 time a week.

Blossam a new relation - Until you have atleast 5 companion and a romantic relation. master the process of building these relationships.

Hanging out with a companion - atleast once a week. take it till twice a week.

Help a stranger - do give 30 atleast once a week.

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Blossom a new relationship.

Yoga class | toastmaster | retreat | cult | cafes | coworking | traveling .. I am lately hanging out in the places of my interest and I am also meeting a lot of people who has similar interests, sparks or values. now the question is with whom and how to take forward the relationship.

sometime it happens that I feel not so willing to spark any conversation, especially in a new place. there is a slight deviation towards not talking and some time its other people energy. and some time I just assume. If you are at new place, and until you are specifically feeling not to engage, put a little more effort to overcome a little bit of resistance.

beginning the conversation and seeing wether there is some connection is quite natural. it just feels easy to connect like madhyuri or new yoga guy. this in itself is quite filling, but than you can take it to the next level, ask them to join in a...

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The streams.

Self - is it really a need or you just misinterpreteting. Wrongly associating it something else. Can you just sit down and observe, can you connect to yourself. Can you observe the nature of it? Is it just the empty time? that is bothering you? Could you reframe back to contribution and vitality?

A conversation with companion - Play, laugh, share, love, care, chase, make fun. An adventure. Forget yourself in the presence of others human. Connect and fill your self. You are also filling other at the same time. Your companions are dying for this too.

Helping a stranger - Can you lend your shoulder, help lifting a heavy baggage with someone without any expectation. Bring a smile on someone’s face. Could you make a stream so you are constantly giving others.

A deep romance - Deep affection, a heartfelt kiss, a touch, a sensual play, a deep deep romance. A care and connection on deepest...

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The emotional tank.

How much and what exactly I need to be in optimal emotional health ?

If I am disconnected from all the soical lifeline, I feel something is drying inside me. Isolated, there is a sense of unease in the form of feeling uninspired, unwillingness, unenaged in life. It pramotes the the meaninglessness.

Lost in the conversations, validated, appricated, understood. sharing, caring, knowing others in their authentic self. Playing, laughing, loving. supporting, serving, giving in others welfare, Seeing other’s smile knowing you are the cause. A deep affection, a true romance, it all fills something inside, makes the ride fun. Keeps it alive, meaningful. The innocence of self fills from outside In. Travelling a direction together.

The Ego’s trap of proving, judging, advicing. Unauthentic and Idyllistic conversation, talking about others and their problems. no personal stakes, no...

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Week #42

contribution -

  • Website launch.
  • What is the next step.

connection -

  • Manifesto of need and aspiration.
  • The demographics how travel and other places help in this.
  • What next.
  • Mastery of love.

spirituality -

  • The smoke of whatapp and videos.

Health -

  • Anatomy of body.

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Week #41 retroaspect.

Contribution -

  • first youtube video, manifesting desire. [ uploaded ]
  • website.

Connection -

  • The yoga retreat.
  • Awarely building companion relationship with J.
  • Giving corrective feedback on indirect advances. Forced leadership. Non-calibrated direct critisim.
  • Kormangala social. Toastmasters. Cult. Yoga Class.

Spirituality -

  • Tao the ching.

Health -

  • More conscious yoga practice.

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The companion relationship.

Yesterday I went out with J. We talked around 3 hours and had a yoga session together. It was kind of a relief to keep reminding myself I don’t need to impress her. Infect the foundation of comapnion relation is to be as real as possible.

She was very willing. She started the conversation and it floated around yoga retreat. And than I took lead and move it into the direction of authentic depth. Soon she was feeling safe enough to share her struggles and reasons in kind of a open way.

Than we move from SO to tee shop. And there was play and laughs on each other.

We spent more than an hour talking in tea shop I was sharing things like learning to wash the clothes. To slums. And she was travelling with friends to introvertism. It was easy. I was consciously bringing it deeper. Lovingly forcing her to share more. She was asking me all kind of questions too.

Lot of conversation were...

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Learning to make videos.

From last 2 days I am engaged in the process of learning to make youtube videos. The first thing I did was to break it down in the peices.

The primary goal is to upload the first video on youtube with minimum viable quality. Let this be first parameter to guide.

The heart of the process is to delivery and content. Than comes the infrastructe | positioning and improvement. And than comes the editing and upload.

Delivery is the first challange to tackle. And this is all that I am going to focus on the first video. Lets shoot on iPad with mic in office light. In the terms of editing i will just cut the frame and stitch them in right order.

So the real question here is that content is ready how to convey that content ?


The main objective is - providing clarity on the process of how to turn the thought into reality.

The process -

chunck - first of all break the presentation on the...

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