Intellect is the aspect of mind which can abstract the reality, analyse it and come up with creative solutions. It is the same intellect that analyse all the data and came up with the solution for the E=mc2 or or build the creative solutions.

Worse use of intellect is to worry or contemplating negative scenarios or thinking how the past could have been different, This is still problem solving but like complete waste of the most amazing resource we have.

The more you are free of samskaras the better access you have to the intellect.

So what purpose I should use intellect for?

One great thing intellect is capable of doing is problem solving. Intellect can actually first of all analyse and remove the different parts and divide the problems and come up with a clear statement of what needs to solved. and then actually come up with a creative solution.

Another thing intellect can do well...

The mind that is being generated because of the past experience stored as samskaras is creating different thought patterns, and emotions. Some ideas comes and they feel so strong and they pass away.

If I am centred these samskaras pass away, This is my own experience in terms of lust, ego, competition and I am reaching my natural state of ease, compassion, joy, presence.

Vipassana with maximum intensity, and daily practice is actually doing it, every time a samskara comes, if you can stay present and relax, it passes away.

The basic trigger is mind is getting active, and heart is getting uncomfortable, it is the inner state. Learn to stay centered and present in real life while this is going on.

The wrong reasons to get into relationship.
You find women attractive. You feel lonely. You won’t get the women later, Old age will be challenging. Societal pressure. You want to experience.

Why?
Because you will keep finding more attractive women and your mind will generate the similar thoughts, but now it will be about breaking this up and getting with some other women. And indeed attractiveness of your women will diminish over the period of time…

If you want to get into relationship because you feel lonely, then ofcourse it will distract you for sometimes, and then you will feel dissatisfied and burdened and lonely.

Mind will come up with different problems, You get women on every age and this is not a security for the bad time, infect it can actually intensify the bad times, again entering into loveless relationships like this, and with expectations

If these are the reasons...

As you are getting purified, you are left with rather a potential mind, and now that mind is creative and analytical and you can use it build something. Figure out the answer, imagine something.

Your goal should be to use this mind in all the possible manner. For days, sharp as knife.

I am doing a lot of things without clear reasoning, and putting the energy there. It is a kind of energy management, taking out the energy from these and putting into right actions.

You need to go through the major actions and see why you do that, get to the depth, understand the reasons. right it down. debate it. and then do it.

The goal is to know why you do something and then refine your knowledge and aligned it with reality. You have experienced and knowledge to do it.

This is very clear that I can not act based on the suggestion coming from the mind, they are just not good. Now these suggestions are coming based on preferences, beliefs, and knowledge.

One I am getting deadlocked, not being able to take decision because there are so many of these different ideas are in the mind.

With an intellectual process I can make it very clear what I need to do and what is the reasoning behind it. I can do this.

Especially in the main areas. These has to be clearly written down and the reasoning behind them should be clear. I have already tried this approach, but at this point it is clear, If I want to resolve the conflict, this has to be done.

Not having sex, not having chai, building network….

This is rather a long project. but It is doable. and it is the way to resolve the conflicts and firmly add and practice the right understanding. In the absense of...

There are multiple beliefs that I consider as True, They are basically beliefs not my own experience, if something is my experience then there is no possibilities of conflict.

There are so many different belief and they are contradicting and that is causing the this unease and discomfort.

This is on the level of mind, and conciousness and will is above it. This is its limit.

One thing that I can do is to be ok with this conflicts.

There are some conflicts that are not very important, eat here, eat there. sit in this cafe or that. even stay here or there.

But then comes the direction towards life. Now I have a very good framework of four domain and continious learning. Using my mind I can master these.

Without this system mind can not make suggestions

From the starting her intention was the long term relationship. She was willing to do all things for me. I was leading and she enjoyed it, she was happy with my leading and she following.

She brough gifts, she also accepted the less sex. She accepted me not messaging her. Although she would prefer we have morning sex.

I broke her heart once and then twice, she accepted. and then she was still nice to me, ofcourse my behaviour of kind of rejecting her again and again started to create a negative voice inside her, and it grew.

Ofcourse her expectation are not being matched and that was in her behaviour keeping the close door, sleeping her room, throwing my clothes in bed, leaving things as it is. Why I can’t love unconditionally. She start to get into the dark place.

She opened her door every time I asked her, while I didn’t when she needed me. Gosh she needs me. She keep compromising...

I am currently working as a Mentor in Mountblue. I get paid 24Lakh/Year. In my job I am learning rapidly different aspects of programming. The way it is going forward is I am moving on the path of mastery. It gives the social support necessary.

The work allow me to engage socially, and it is of such nature that I get to practice leadership, mentorship and social aspect of it.

Now the options that are open for me are, I can learn more and more and become a brilliant engineer.

I can also get some remote work and travel while working.

I can create courses on Linkdin and PluralSight.

I can also create a product on technical education that can expose me to better the process of entreprenuership.

And the biggest thing It gives me the opportunity to continue my meditation practice.

What are the other options?

One is to work remotely and travel the world. Second is to work in London...

One of the most important thing is intention should be the same, we are in the relationship because if I am exploring and she is thinking long term, someone’s heart will broke. This is why the commitment is important.

The basic statement of mind and nature should be positive.

One of the reason the bitterness developed in my relationship is because she felt cheated by me. for 2 years I stayed and enjoyed her generosity without a commitment.

How can relationship enrich the life?
My focus is clear. I will do everything to maximize my spiritual goal. having a good health. Growing in social and work realm, in the incermental way.
Once you are clear what you wanna do in life, Relationship can enrich it. Or relationship can help in the process of this descovery. A relationship will be counter productive.

The relationship is beautiful when I focus on the good aspects of it, relationship is...