In the absense of clarity, the lower aspect of sex, ease, nastyness starts to overpower and start to drive the actions. Things start to feel loose.

Although capable of executing things in perfect discipline, Things start to feel dry. emotionless.

Following the emotion has this hangover effect. Ofcourse mind keep shifting shape. and the shape can be well inticipated.

I do not want to live life to just satisfy the senses and keeps getting more and more demanding. It has this effect of something like timelapse.

Senses and model are what drive the action in absense of meaningful choices and commitment.

Senses. model, ease, what people think of me, the fear of loosing out, and the effect of these drives the action. they have emotions with them. and actually that’s all the power these things have.

These days I am always aware. and have always the choice of how I want to move from here...

There is an increasing sense of visibility of what I call me. The form is of thought. It has a nature, a prominent type. There is a finite set of these I. When I feel unfair that I didn’t paid enough, I overworked, This is very closely connected with beliefs, desires, emotions.

When something you want happens, I feel good. When someone disrespect you I feel hurt and starts to bad mouth. When some one does something for you I starts to become repaying that debt.

There is also this sense of people acting in the illusionary way.

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The one aspect of the relationship is two different people with two different world. The worse way to handle it is to becomes disrespectful, or coming in between the primary goals of each other. Keeping disagreement inside, The right way to do it is to have debate with each other, know each other worlds intimately, support each other in their primary goals.

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The other aspect is to help each other to become better in terms of giving constructive feedbacks, never dumping ones garbage on others. Never passing judgments on other. Not doing things to please others. You can build strong respect and fondness by your actions, to be respected and adorable you have to be respectable.

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Culture of giving more than taking, safety, shared journey, debate and disagreements. Spending time together once a week, taking course together.

• Speaking in conferences
• Github and open source
• Writing and curating blogs
• Regular updates on social media, Linkdin, Facebook, Twitter
• Marketing objectives
• Blog
• Videos

A leader’s job is to have a vision and implement it through people. The potential of people is their mind and their different views. The challenge is an attachment to our ideas, ego, and sensitivity.

I have worked in teams, Itemize was the great example, No clear vision, strong dissonance in the team, extremely amature people. poor quality work.

The first goal of the leader is to have a clear vision, set the values, enforce it, decision making, and strategy. This leader should not be doing by himself but can take input from other people and should take input from other people.

Clear - leader should be clear about long term vision and short term goals. It is an extension of personal life. Sometimes we need to be in the waters.

Values - .leader should be clear with values and principle that needs to be applied. These values are what build culture.

Strategies -. Generally, everything...

There will be differences in the relationship and it is charging when someone acts with an affliction.

Know that most likely people’s nature does not change easily. If you are in a relationship with some kind of person that be certain you will be with that sort of person.

A person has the right to act in any way they want to act. They even have right to destroy themself with alcohol. The other person should interfer when one she the destructive tendency in others. If other person does not wants to change than one has right to leave her. This should not become the blame game, or in a way hurtful existence.

There should be willingness to talk and concensus about how to be in the relationship, the shared dream, what is the foundation, and rightful expectation. If that does not match the person should just move on.

The more common direction the better.

Each one of the person should have...

So for me, a relationship is all about social support and love, knowing each other in-depth, supporting each other in their journey and building kind of shared jounrey, committing to building the future together.

It is not about physical attraction, controlling others, pleasing others, or finding meaning and purpose in the relationship.

With Lin the good parts are she is I enjoyed her frequency, independent, simple, homely, not very egotistical, do not drink, smoke, and has common interest like yoga and health.

Challenging part is her health issue, she seems to be a bad deal given her past record abortion, and friend circle, poor academics… Then it frustate me when acts aloof, closing the door, silent, irritiated, in the state of affliction. Lastly her ideas and attachments to them, marriage etc. forcing them on me.

One of the hardest things in the relationship is how you deal with...

Basic respect - Basic respect for other person’s points of view and willingness to listen to it.

Ability and willingness to talk to and listen to the differences - Nither suppressing nor controlling but talking through the differences.

Ability to withstand the discomfort - Can handle disturbance in emotions and thoughts by her self.

Ability to give and take constructive feedback - Can take and give constructive feedback. Infect this should be in the culture.

Judgement and contempt - The other person should be listening not passing the judgments and crucifying. and talking with contempt.

Valunerablity based trust - It should ultimately create the env. where other person know you, your weakness, and still respect you and you feel comfortable to discuss your struggles, and triumphs.

Work in Germany as a full stack javascript lead - The benefit is you get to work on a high-quality env, better quality of people, and you can continue to grow to the next level. You can keep getting the experience of getting higher and higher quality env. with people, kind of community, opportunities, and projects.

Work in London on a daily basis - Be the consultant who works in London on a daily basis…

Work remotely - working remotely has the advantage of choosing the projects of the choice and commitment. This also allows traveling the world.

Director of sapient - This allows you to be the

CTO of a company - Join a rather startup kind of company and direct it through this has the advantage of selling the company.

Running a consultancy firm in Germany - Again starting up a company and sort of have complete control.

Running a school - Maybe something similar to the AltCampus.

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I was getting annoyed with what stubbornness of Lin. My mind more precisely the voice in my head suggesting that I should leave her etc. She was basically challenging my ideas. She was making me feel annoying by saying or doing things I don’t want to listen. and not doing things that I want her to do. the net result that the voice that wants to leave her, then she came and do things I want her to do and the voice is that its ok. and it only stay that long and then pass away.

Always think of the voice as input and learn to ignore or do just opposite of the voice. This is the real chance it is telling you your preferences and habits, and beliefs. this is where the real possible chnage can happen.

Now also notice what exactly happened she can also be acting in the incorrect way, you need to communicate that with her as well.

Also when you are unsuccessful see what happened and change...