So you meet someone, you meet them at a place where you stay [ ananda ], place where you go often cafe [snowline | radhakrishana], events [yoga retreat | tushita], courses[intro to Buddhism | speechcraft| php].

You talked and there is a resonance, you take a phone number and escilate. And decide to meet somewhere. Or casually ask them to breakfast.

There is slightly awakward first date. You get to know each other a little. Let it be awakward. There is a charm in that. You give her space to talk, talk clearly about the kind of person you are. Naturally let it build. And gaze her interest and all.

You see her interest keep escialtung until you are living together. As simple as that. If she wants she will show the sign. If there is no right fit. Her interest or actions are dubious. Let it go. Do not waste your time.

Niether I drink, nor I smoke, I don’t try to qualify for the girls who...

So you arrive at the place, where you see other person suffering the same thing you were suffering. And there is no selfishness your heart will filled with compassion.

It can not be a thought but an emotion. A thought will make you look at the other person with the eyes of pitty. Compassion will fill your heart with love.

You can practice compassion and sharing but the moment someone you help becomes ungrateful that will make you feel bad. Although that is the most oblivious expectations.

I think I will reach there naturally. Where it become obvious. I am becoming incridbly good in this process as I am moving forward. If I see the delta in last 2 years, it will blow you away. This is the place I will not compromise.

With marriage comes a different kind of life, you need stability, security, it leads to another domain of having kids.. this takes life of its own, which has its place but doing it amateurishly will limit you, bound you and make you suffer. Without stability it is not even an option.

Giving the kind of lifestyle I am leading, purposeful and directed. I can actually live alone. Only major difference is reading and growing in the evening instead of spending time with your partner. That’s the only major difference.

There is an angle of age, that creates a kind of urgency, but as I am getting more familiar there are endless opportunities in every age group...

There could a one night stand, where you meet other person you know there isn’t much time and possibilities, but there is intimacy and sex. A very short term [ Australian actor | Lara | Polish girl ]

You can have a companion relationship with someone who is already in relationship like J, Esabell. A good conversation. A nice lunch sharing and all that.

I can just stay with someone maybe for a month or maybe longer, the comfort and cuddling of the relationship without any long term commitment. Infect a part of you know this is not the long term.

Long term prospect, you are seeing someone, and you know there could a long terms possibility, girlfriend. And you are seeing that.

There could be someone the perfect fit. And you know this is it.

An understanding and appreciation of what other person is doing - this was an incredible quality in Lin and J. They seems to understand, respect and throughly appreciate my spiritual drive decipline and the way I live. On the other hand Kavita seems to get a little bit in the beginning, I can’t expect this from Ritika or namarata, infect they are opposite. This is also the common interest. I in return also appreciate the things they are doing in their life not Preksha. Sixen could have been, but it is too early, couple more meeting and you know exactly.

Self importance | Giver - Dwani, Denmarkish, even the isrialian girl who returned the breakfast in snow line. these people had very high amount of self importance, It is becomes clear early, on the other hand again Lin and J are the givers. They are willing to up to an extent to make other person happy. Ofcourse there is a hard line, I...

You keep the element of mutual happiness and discard the ones that are creating problems. You remove or dry all the illusory happiness and built on the foundation of reality.

You have to live together.

The first thing it shouldn’t spread or be intrusive. It should have it’s place. But then it shouldn’t interfere with your spiritual | work | health goals.

It would be incribdle if it is complementory, if she prefer to clean the house or cook and I will be happy to pay the rent of the place and the meals, there has to be mutual respect.

In the beginning you might do it twice but than you do it once a week.

You should be so comfortable around each other so that it doesn’t affect you personally.

You wake up do your thing, [ meditation ] and work at your office till night and then you come back home and spend time with her or reading. And then you sleep at 10:00

This 7-10 is her time...

I enjoy walking with her. holding my arms, Holding my hand, happy about it, her expression of self. She playing with me, she is writing letter to me, bringing things for me, Wanting to help me.

She is crying, smiling, wanting to kiss me, acting like a child, non-verbally showing me how much I matter to her. Verbally telling me things she love about me. Opening up with me. Sending me messages indirectly asking for attention. Little dependent on me.

It feels good to see and greeted by someone, to see you matter to someone, a whole lot. kisses, hugs they feel good. Intimacy And then there is sex.

Separation spears the heart but then like everything it passes away. There is a habit of renumarating memories especially as they were pleasent.

Being in a relationship demand attention and time and sacrifices. Not being able to sleep properly. And then my consensus of giving more than...

You have to live in the society, and there is this social etiquette that seems to be required.

There are small expectations, you should talk to people in the group. You should not directly challange other people’s beliefs. There are these behaviours that are essential, especially if you are working in a team or leading a team.

You kinda have to go to the Alex party, a polite and diplomatic handling of others criticism and demands.

Espically handling other peoples ego and power. Giving them approval and praise and declining their demands without being overt or creating the tension.

There is an art of social jungle. It is an interdependent world, but people care for themselves only. Everyday I deal with dozen of people, sometime it is easy and simple. Other time I just yield. I usually keep my end of the deal, but that doesn’t make other person do the same. In most of the deal other person just want bigger deal and gets it, as I don’t know how to handle the conflicts and stuff like these.

People start to play these games, start to blame, become intellectually righteous. Cut me off in the middle of the conversation, becoming non-verbally abusive. Using all kind of responsibility avoiding manipulative tricks , Now that I can see all this, it is not acceptable.

They ask how much is your package, what is your age, say no, seems to make it tense, saying yes demonstrate the weakness. This happens in all the relationship. Diplomatically negotiating with self cantered...

Accpetance | Rejection - as soon as you meet someone there is this sense of I am happy to see you and I am not so happy. Me with bhai | Prachi coming to Dharamshala, when I go to home Prachi | Mom. Snowline | Common floor. People can also pretend or sometime you just don’t know Akhil | Kewat.

Pride - sometime people has this understanding of I know and other person has no idea. Ashish | Mom | Dhaval , maybe I was the same at the time of freelancing, even this sense that oh they will not understand, in meeting in EE. This blocks the conversation and experience because it is unidirectional.

Pretending - I recently did this with sixen, somewhat unawarly, sharing my ideas rather than realities. I tell honestly, talk to my mom like that…. than reading 2 books a week| Piyush. Saying things that will impress other people which they themselves know are not true.

Dominating - there are people...