At the moment I am getting most of the things my way. I am more than happy to compromise and do things for her. I am also thinking and doing things for her. But mostly I get what I want.
You should not forcefully control her life and than there should be mutual consensus about the common areas. The common topics for example sex you must discuss it together.
Another area of conflict is the difference in the nature. Prudent me, expressive her.
There are two component of intimacy, one is non sexual affection, like kisses, hugs and psysical contact. The other is sex itself.
The kisses, hugs and all that feels good on the whole body level. There is this valvet like feeling. Sometimes I carried away and do it until it becomes kind of annoying.
In the sex there are fantasy like sex which is mental image match. And then there is normal, regular sex.
The emotion of sexual desire stimulate the pubic region.
The pull of sex is very strong. And I have done things out of possession of it which I normally won’t do.
Then unwillingly it becomes suppressing.
This totally devastated me in last month, I am on regular rythem now.
I would rather prefer to live life without this desire.
The bare minimum is the balance. And then regularity.
Audit. What data is most important and I can get most convientely. Which is relevant to the mind.
The most important data.
Audit every 2 hours is convenient. Do this today. In the night you need to update the criteria of audit. Until you got it right.
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Analysis.
After each audit. What are the most important things to analyse.
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ReProgram. This should be done after each gatka.
Based on the analysis, you should be able to manipulate it.
It is...
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social -
work -
health -
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Imagin you got rid of attraction and need and balance the sexual drive. Now the world of options are here. Would you consider to be single or in a relationship.
There has to be a purpose in the life, even if you are free, you still have to act. You still have to work in live around people.
The good thing about lin is I like her, she love me, she is not arrogant and willing to compromise and influenced. She is not high maintainance. She is mature and take care of her self. She is a kind person, her natural desire is somewhat helping. She respects me. She is good homely women.
She is into yoga, has done vipassana, into self growth, observing, thinking. Happy with little. Kind. I turn her on just the way I am.
She has a weak body. Low self worth. 2-3 years older than me and chiness.
I like her, we are very comfortable around each other, we share a lot of comman pursuits. She admires...
The basic attitude - there is certain basic attitude of the mind, right now it is counting time, it maybe lets do that and all. You can and must retrain it to more productive terms. Defaulting to be lazy.
the sense of self - there is a sense of self worth. And can I do that or not. It is just the kind of sense.
Weather basic attitude is changing or not. Or the effect I am creating must be check by logging. It can sometime produce it’s own side effect. But it must be done.
Self suggestion is repetition of words with feeling. I can also constantly ask questions. Unlike changing the thoughts on the air. It can change the underlying source of the thoughts.
Visualization seems to be close cousins, but I might need to learn a bit more, or experiment a bit more.